This is a very personal post today, I know that being comfortable and content is one thing but happiness is SO much more. Feeling ‘enough’ to receive anything is a struggle. To receive thanks, money, gratitude, compliments… name it.
I’ve already achieved much in my life but was it “My Way” or “Their Way”… enjoy!
“All my life, when I’m truly honest with myself I’ve always done the ‘right thing’ or ‘what’s expected.’ I passed high school well, I traveled for a year, I went to uni and graduated, got married, work hard, had kids, am a good mum and wife. I’m now 33 with 3 kids and although I’m content I do sometimes wonder what would life look like IF?”
I have struggled for years with anxiety. This was a rough piece to share but I felt it truly needed light, especially sitting front and centre at the time of another episode. I hope those who find this, find a little peace.
” it’s extremely ostracizing and deeply painful. I shy away from social interactions, being around people other than my family unit… sometimes even away from my family. “
“When you spend so much time in a negative head space, you outwardly research and glean examples of why something is 100% truth. When you’re in a positive mindset, the same is true, however it’s not detrimental to your own self. Your beliefs are an equation of
I have been invited to be part of The Just Be Revolution and not only co-found this amazing revolution, but share my story and journey ahead coupled with artworks and imagery for each piece. Pretty cool from my perspective.
Just Be is…
A Revolution of courage, strength and love.
A Revolution of tolerance, kindness and confidence.
A Revolution to change how we feel about ourselves and to change how we see others.
Just Be is fighting for a future where everyone is accepted for who they are and how they look. The Just Be Revolution is a platform to share stories, and as our army grows, our voice will get louder. Together we are stronger and can make the world a better place for everyone.
Just Be is for everyone who wants to live in a kinder, more tolerant world where nobody is judged on their appearance. Just Be is for everyone who wants to help change what society sees as beautiful, normal and acceptable. Just Be is for anyone who has been teased, bullied, abused, beaten up, or worse, because of how they look or how they choose to look. Just Be is for everyone who is confident and happy to just be who they are. We are fighting for a world where nobody is afraid to be themselves.
Many people have NO clue to my history and it’s not something I’ve ever shared. I’m finding though in my older years it’s becoming unwanted, disliked baggage that needs aired and dropped off along the road. I’m tired of seeing cyclic patterns arise and continue to prevail where change is growing.
I’m tired of the bullies and abusers.
The opinions that drive so many to lead pain filled, suppressed lives.
I’m tired of not living for me. For living how others perceive I “should”.
I’m tired of the ‘shoulds’ ‘musts’ ‘cant’s’ of life.
I’m tired of the abuse.
I just want to watch those around me thrive and blossom. I want to create art that speaks to those in transitions, pain, dark spaces and show them a path back to the light. It can be done- it’s not easy but it CAN be done.
“I’ve battled my whole life to become the strong person I am today. I’ve heard that what gets you through the first half of your life is completely different than what gets you through the second half of your life.
I know I’m not quite at the “second half” point yet, but I’ve been learning a lot about myself, and what I want for my life, over the last year or so. I’m doing a little reinventing early.”
I forget how much the ocean opens up creativity for me. Sitting in it on the first day here, I had a few minutes to reflect on the past 12 months at Julie Clyde Creative and realised just how far I’ve come to date but also how far I still have to work on to continually grow and develop this incredible ‘ little business that could’. SO many times I threw this business into the trash, threw my hands in the air and simply gave up. SO. MANY. TIMES. Shouty text is for me to remind myself that was the last time.
It brought up some interesting conversations with my friend, Vanessa, who I’m travelling with. She owns and runs View It Do It which is an incredible live stream business out of Norfolk, Virginia, USA. She can take her high def cameras ANYWHERE in the world and live stream your big event globally.
As we contemplated the end of day one here, we got onto a few topics which had arisen as part of the conference we are here with. There had been some tension and frustrations voiced throughout the day, which I was working my best to not jump in and offer some suggestions. I realised how common these frustrations are and why they actually happen.
When you have an organisation, you need structure. Now whether or not that is a board of advisers for your sole trader or LLC which involes a few friends, your mum and the cat or whether its a small to large comany, having directors, CEO, COO, CFO and what works for your company are imperative.
There needs to be people in these positions who are leaders. They shouldn’t be there because they’re deemed the strongest personality, or appear always in control.
This is a general observation from many businesses I’ve had the pleasure of working with. The companies who thrive and work the best together have been the ones where the CEO works with EVERYONE around themselves. Yes, It’s their ultimate decision on many things, BUT, they are not making all the decisions based on their own thoughts, agenda, ideals and what they want out of it. Even my business starting out, I had my husband as a big sounding board and a few of my business friends with a couple of my non business friends to sound ideas off. They have grown to be imperative to my own decision making and success. A great and supportive team are imperative to any growth be it in life or business.
The second key to your business is not your logo. I’m sorry that’s NOT your branding. It’s your brand MARK but not your brand. Some graphic designers create the most spectacular logos and marks and I really enjoy scrolling through websites and imagery checking those out. While these are part of what you do, in order to have a clear cut message and direction for your business, it’s imperative to your success you have a brand developer come in and work one on one with you and your board to get your messaging spot on.
If you sell toilet paper for example, and it’s the softest, whitest, prettiest designed toilet paper but your messaging says you sell gift wrap, you’ll attract the wrong audience and create a muddled brand for both yourself and your prospective clients.
Recently, one of my brands and I were talking about their brands message and their tag line in particular. For me I know when a message hits home. It’s like a huge light that goes off in my head. He was talking about his photography work and what could he have has his tag (I adore his work so this was a total thrill for me to work with him on this). It started out with bringing nature inside and creating my passion to inspire you. Which don’t get me wrong are still nice, but when he started to tell his story a little more and spoke of what emotion it brings his clients that’s when the light bulb went on for us all. He said “My mum always tells me that my work ‘Puts you there’ so maybe Place you there?”
I was hosting a workshop at the time and every single attendee looked up from their work and literally yelled at him, OH YES! You HAVE got to check out his work over at Russell Pugh Photography. We are still happily working together and I cannot wait to see where his brand and clarity drives his amazing passion and creativity.
Vanessa from View It Do It, when we first started working together’s tag line was “Where Everyone Gets a Front Row Seat” Which in itself isn’t bad, BUT it didn’t allow her clients to understand what it was she did from the get go. She changed it after we had some long branding chats to “Stream You Big Day Live”. Instantly people understand what she does and she is thriving daily.
For your brand to be fully understood you tag line is important but its also your essence and substance behind what you do. It’s your mission and vision statements. Its your commitment statements, key words, colours, font selections, messaging throughout everything you do. This is my passion and being able to watch business men and women realise their message and potential it makes me incredibly inspired within myself. At the end of the day, my clients should be, must be, more successful than I am and if they’re not, then I’m not doing my job properly.
I know I’ve been writing a little lately about capturing an authentic brand for your business, or yourself in life. Your brand is WHO you are not what you are. That does help to know your what and why but the WHO is often the part that eludes us the most.
Megan Hall Motivation and I have been working together a lot recently to authentically brand her thriving business and getting to the WHO of what she does. It has been a journey for the both of us. Even though shes a kick arse motivational mindset coach and entrepreneur, I still managed to make her stop and think whilst we were developing her branding style guide. These guides need to speak to many different vendors who you work with in corporate life and for them to be able to truly ‘get’ your business and who you are.
Megan is my butterfly of life. She exudes bright, shiny happy light and an energy that is infectious. When I first met her I remember thinking, she’s my person. We WILL be friends. The second time we met I was able to talk to her much more and we hit it off. Now it feels like our friendship is centuries old and that we were never not friends. I love having those people in my life and I’m realising quickly that they are few and far between. However when I find them I keep them with all I have. They help ME to grow and help me realise that it’s safe to be me around them.
So this morning, after two reorganizations of our session due to sickness and hurricane Hermine, we met at 7am. I wanted her to feel safe, enabled to be herself, and to have fun and ignore the camera. In order to do this I need to be a clean slate and create a very open environment to ask questions from a place of no intention. To reflect back and feel how my client is in that moment.
I had my mentee and new addition to JCC (more to come soon!) Jossan Urban on location to enjoy and see how my shoots run. They are filled with love, laughter and a LOT of talking. It is a conversation between two or more people, via some glass (the camera).
Today is the first time I have welcomed my ‘client’ and anyone else back into my work space to look over the images as they are and talk about them all. Say ‘yes or no’ before my own personal cull. I am teaching Joss my version of how I work and want her to see how fun and enjoyable culling of images can be. Especially seeing real time expression while we shoot through to it being captured in a file on my screen.
I can’t show you all the images, but we certainly have a few silly out takes I would love to show you. There will be many many more to come, but for now I will share my favourite image from this morning of Megan in her genuine, smiley, authentic self… No cheese here!
And a couple of fun outtakes- which always happen :p
Megan, you have HUGE things ahead of you. You have an incredible team around you who are here to lift you up and support you, every step of the way. I love the way you love everyone around you, your heart and compassion. I respect that you don’t take rubbish from ANYONE and I strive to grow to be that way too. To my phenomenal friend, you ARE enough and I will find you every life, especially if it means we get to laugh as hard as we do. Here’s to a huge future, love, laughter and hilarity ahead.
Always be you.
Dear Jesh De Rox, (Creator of Moment Design, gentle soul and awesome mentor)
I write to you today to thank you. Thank you for stepping out far beyond the ‘conventional’ to create, inspire and empower those around you. Thank you for being inquisitive enough to research and search for why your clients rocked some sessions and not others. Thank you for being the first to see a vision and then sharing that vision so the rest of us would be able to share that passion and vision with others. Your education and love is incredible. May you continue to grow and follow your whimsy.
I am re-certifying myself with the updated and new Beloved Movement which is growing into Moment Design. I have been so fortunate in my photography career by being introduced to beloved in its early days so I was able to utilize the skills and grow with them. I was asked to re-certify with Moment Design just after the Modern Femme Conference in May. Me being me, couldn’t wait to sign on so I did.
With the amount of things going on for me at that time, there were many many late nights followed by days jam packed full of kids, planning, creating, painting, educating and household tasks. I think I may have been slightly crazy but I completed everything!
The weeks flew by and it was SO great revisiting so much of what I had learned previously and hearing new content for the first time too.
At the end of the course, we were asked to put into real time use what we had learned to date.
I put out a model call on my business page and had a few game responders. Joss & Tyler were the two who were able to do the ‘pre-work’, be there on the day we planned and were willing to come open and ready to experience something very very new and different.
I gave them their homework and waited for the day.
As it came around to 5pm, our sunny bright and gorgeous day turned into the darkest, rain storm ever. I called Noah and asked him if he had been building an arc lately it was so bad.
We rescheduled (with much apologizing for my homework being eaten by the torrential rain) and we re shot the following Wednesday.
I am SO glad we waited.
Taking a couple through a photographic session like this is physically and emotionally impact-full for all involved. You have to be careful to warm them up, work with them and remain completely open yourself or you can lose every last ounce of work you put into their session up to that point. I felt Tyler blocking me a couple of times but with some gentle encouraging and a whole lot of laughter we progressed.
I had THE hardest time culling their images down after their session. Each one had ‘something’ I wanted to sit and stare at or giggle at, but I know the rules and that can’t happen haha. Moment Design is so fitting for what this is all about. Designing beautiful, authentic, genuine, loving, laughter filled moments with two beautiful souls.
Thank you 1000000000000 times for allowing me into your relationship for an hour and showing me around your love. It is truly an honor and I’m even more grateful for the friendship and love you share with our family.
Here’s to many more shoots together and far more glasses of red afterwards!
I realized a few things after my business launch. 3)I have some really awesome supporters of my work. 2) I really need to write down my speeches or I forget everything I hoped to say when I stand in front of my friends 1) I’m REALLY good at self sabotage due to my upper limit issues.
As I sat down on the evening of July 4th and reflected on our crazy weekend I realized that by knowing where I was at physically was no where near my emotional or brain space. Who knew you could be in three places at once!
I had picked a fight the evening before with hubby and was feeling preeeeety crappy about myself for no apparent reason. THANKFULLY I am reading an awesome book right now and realized after some reflection that indeed my ‘upper limitations’ were alive and kicking me around. Taking myself to hubs and apologizing he got me talking more about it. I had no idea that something that makes me so incredibly happy to do and produce would also be a direct to my biggest downfall- I didn’t feel like I DESERVED the success I had. I didn’t FEEL that I was worthy of people showing up and supporting me and my passion. I got to wondering just how many other women and men go through this?
I very quickly had a building feeling in me that I needed to get out. A friend sent me an image of a public statue in Brooklyn NY which sent shock waves through my mind. With a great deal of work and tweaking “Out of the Fire” was produced.
This DreamScape is DEFINITELY being printed for my own office to remind me that out of the fire phoenix are reborn, coal is made and from there so are diamonds. In a round about, Julie kind of thinking, way.
This piece is probably not the last to cross my path but it’s definitely a stepping stone for me to remember I AM worthy. I am talented and skilled and all those other words I cannot say out loud some days.
I am a multitude of things but, I am incredibly imperfect in my own perfect kind of way.
I love you heaps,
Out of the flames: Let me ask you, what is wrong with lifting yourself up from your circumstances to chase your dreams? Why do we allow ourselves to prevent our being better, stronger and more abundant? It’s a rough few steps but they’re worth taking. Lift yourself out of your comfort and ride towards your zone of genius. Be who you were put on this earth to be, and love the life you have to live. Stop allowing yourself to feel others doubts, words and limitations and rise up. RISE UP!! Today, tomorrow and the future is YOURS. No one elses.
It’s been two years since I had my own pregnancy photos taken. I asked my then boss, Emma Rhoades to go out early one morning and shoot atop the headland in Coffs Harbour Australia. Thinking it would be the typical sunny warm day we got to talking about billowing fabrics and laces and other ideas we could shoot up there.
Come the morning of the shoot it was cold… I mean 5 degrees or less cold and windy, wet (insert HUGE sigh here).
Emma text me to check I was still game. She was SO busy at the time we said stuff it lets go do this. I froze… haha but it was worth it! We had a great giggle and when I behaved myself and did what she told me (when I could hear her over the wind) it was great. The deal was she shot (and put up with the worst client ever ie me) and I would edit them. These are still all her beautiful mastery of shooting. She’s amazing and I love her dearly. I’ve had a great time editing them the past couple of days!
Thanks mate for making my fatty belly look so awesome carrying twins xxx You’re the best!